Do you ever get the idea that being a godly wife means you need to be a mousy doormat? Be as unnoticeable as a doorknob? Or have a personality transplant?Anyone who knows me would agree that I have a bit of a strong personality (I guarantee you that my mom is laughing at my use of "a bit of a" in that description). I have an amazing and well-honed ability to get my own way pretty much all of the time. Except when I come up against my 3-year-old daughter in conflict- my strong will doesn't stand a chance against hers! My husband is by no means a weak personality, but he definitely lets me get my way a lot of the time.
Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior, smashes that idea. No matter whether you're an extrovert or more introverted-Kimberly Wagner believes women are created to be a compelling force.
You may not see yourself as beautifully fierce or even slightly strong, but what if God has placed a powerful fierceness within you, within every woman? Kim admits her fierceness became a source of conflict in her marriage, but the relationship dynamic totally changed when she discovered her fierce strengths could be used to encourage and inspire her husband. She invites you to come alongside as she takes an honest look at a destructive relationship dynamic and casts a vision for the transformation God can bring to troubled marriages.
And that works for me, but it's not healthy. It's not the type of wifely behavior that I want to be modeling to my friends or to my kids. So I was very, very glad that this book found its way to my home. The author, Kimberly Wagner, by no means wants women to become weak and wimpy, but through the pages of this book she encourages women to be aware of the power of their words and actions. We have enormous power to affect our husbands and our marriages. Mrs. Wagner is incredibly honest and shares details from the story of her own marriage, as well as other marriages that she and her husband have interacted with while counseling others.
In addition to being honest, this book is firmly grounded in the Bible and Biblical truths and encourages women to strengthen their relationship with Christ as well as their relationships with their husbands. Each chapter concludes with a series of questions and a Bible reading.
I will definitely be reading this book again (probably starting tomorrow) and highly encourage all women, particularly married ones, to pick up a copy as well.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book to review for myself. I was not compensated in any other way and all opinions posted here are mine and mine alone.